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[astralera]

Of course.

I suppose the issue then is not a lack of desire to communicate, but an inherent deficit in understanding what things need be communicated?

[necromanswers]

how about starting with what you told me already?

your worries about something going wrong is a starter
that can lead in to making sure they know how much you want things to go smoothly
checking with each of them what they want from you, for you, for themselves, and if necessary, from/for each other
talk about what you can do together to accomplish any and all of these goals

give yourself a timeline for checking in on these things, particularly for the fella new to having his body back. not like, "I want to do x by y date" but "give me an update on how you're feeling in a week about x y z". if nothing changes extend it and go from there. you all can gauge what a reasonable amount of time is if you measure it by actual days rather than some amorphous "tell me when you're ready". it's not a deadline, just a soft schedule.

does that make sense

[astralera]

I don't wish to burden them with such unnecessary things.

Such a timeline does make sense, thank you. I am already aiding him with regaining his fine motor control, so adding additional elements to check up on would not be too difficult.

[necromanswers]

you're in a relationship. why would any of that be unnecessary?

[astralera]

They've enough to concern themselves with. My worries needn't be another—particularly when there is naught they can do to ease them.

[necromanswers]

Often it's not about whether or not they can help, but more that you trust them enough to unburden yourself and share your troubles. A partnership goes both ways, and don't you want them to do with same with you if they're having problems?

[astralera]

I share with them my legitimate concerns if appropriate, but ones induced by paranoia are not among those.

If it is a problem I can reasonably hope to help with, or if I could offer comfort of some manner, I would appreciate them confiding in me. If they do not, it is either due to my own failings, or merely a problem where my involvement would complicated or worsen matters.

[necromanswers]

Didn't you just say that paranoia saves lives? So doesn't that make it important enough to share with those you love?

[astralera]

Not if I keep them safe. Then it is irrelevant, and something they needn't fret over.

[necromanswers]

yeah that's dumb. you're taking away their power to protect themselves by withholding information.

[astralera]

Information does not always offer protection. But I shall consider it if it becomes necessary.

[necromanswers]

food for thought, at least.

Anything else you need to know? Or should I just wish you good luck and good sex lol

[astralera]

Good luck would not be remiss, though I'm abstaining from the other for now.

Once he's more adjusted, and once I can ascertain that his feelings for me was not merely imprinting, then it would be something to try again if he so wished.

[necromanswers]

There's possible imprinting, now? You sure end up in some complicated relationships.

[astralera]

He was a wandering spirit for one hundred years, unable to be seen or heard or interact with the world around him. Then he found me.

For a century he was alone, and then he found me. Now he has a body once more, and once again there I was.

I am not smart, but neither am I stupid. In those circumstances anyone would latch upon the first person to rid them of their isolation.

[necromanswers]

Suppose so, yeah.

[Bit late for second thoughts, perhaps, but it is better late than never, so she won't say anything more of that.]

Well then, I wish you good luck. If you need anything else just keep me posted.